I woke up this morning annoyed. This whole time change has racked havoc on our girls' schedules. We have been getting up far to early and it feels like it will never go back to normal. After making sure Travis was putting on the coffee and I brought sweet Lyla down from her room, I started scrolling through Facebook on my phone as I impatiently waited for the coffee to finish. After only a few short seconds I came across something that took my breath away. Something that stopped me dead in my tracks and tears to form in my eyes. A sweet angelic looking little 3 year old niece of a Facebook friend had passed in her sleep last night. Suddenly my annoyance seemed to not mean a single thing. My babies where playing in front of me happily and....breathing...full of life. I was happy and blessed to have them alive. My small annoyance was nothing compared to the pain that young momma must be feeling....
All morning it was all I could pray about...think about. Made me have more patience with the girls...more compassion...more grace.... And it got me thinking about how whenever something tragic seems to happen to a young child we always say the phrases "Hug your kids tonight..." or "Hold onto them a little longer today". And then before we know it life moves on and exhaustion creeps in. Our tempers get short again....the rush of life hurries us out the door. But you know what? These precious children God entrusts us with...these fragile souls we get blessed with....are only ours for such a short time. We can never 100% know when they will be taken from this earth. Every single soul on this earth will be taken from it at some point. We don't know the years, months, weeks, days or hours we have. So besides the same old saying of cherishing every moment we have with them... I started thinking about something else we need to keep in mind as we journey together on this road of motherhood.....
Each of our journeys as mothers are different. We all have our own way of doing things....we all have our own ways to be the best parents we can be to our kids. And since time is fleeting before our very eyes I feel we as mothers need to start owning it. We need to start owning the decisions we make as mothers for the benefit of our kids. As mothers I know we all have those voices in our heads. Those voices of doubt and fear over how other mothers or society is choosing to judge each and every decision we make for our kids. But you see, TIME is FLEETING. Even if our kids never leave this earthly home before us, we still only get a few super short years to help shape their tiny souls.
So this is a call out to every single mommy out there. New and experienced...young and old..... You, yes YOU were entrusted by God for that tiny little sweet amazing child's life. Whatever decision you choose for the betterment of your kid, own it. Hold your head proud and drown out every single doubt you have. Hold your head proud and pray for God to help quiet all of society's judgments. Stay at home mamas, we chose this life after much prayer and going over the numbers. We chose this because it was the best decision for our family. There will always be those people out there wondering what we did all day or thinking that if you are struggling financially maybe we should 'get up off our butts' and go to work. Ignore them. Own it momma. Working mommas out there, good for you girl. I know that decision wasn't easy. I know when you come home to find out that sweet baby did something new without you being there is hard. I know it's not easy but you decided that because it was best for your family. Own it momma. To the mom who prayed and cried and researched and prayed some more and then finally decided to homeschool. I see you, I can only imagine that some days you wonder if you did the right thing. I imagine it can get long and hard and stressful. I imagine you can sense when it comes up in conversation and people say "Ohhhh you homeschool"...that you can tell in their voices that they don't approve. Guess what? You don't need the world's approval. You, only you know what's best for your family. To the mommas who put their kids on that public school bus every morning and pray that they are kept safe. I see you, I know how you must worry about all that is being taught at school. How you must pray and worry so much for what they might be tempted with or how safe they are. Girl, you made that decision because it's best for your family. Or maybe you are the mom who spent money on a higher education, a degree in something your heart and soul was in.....But then that sweet angelic face popped into your life and your world turned upside down. Therefore you aren't working in the field your degree is in...instead you are working a job that maybe wasn't your life passion but you get more time with that precious soul. Don't be ashamed....don't be afraid to shout it out why you did it. That little life is worth it. Own it mommma....OWN IT MOMMAS.
The list could go on and on....because you see we are all different. No 2 moms are the same. No 2 kids are the same. God made each of us unique and with that each of our parenting techniques will be unique. And that is a beautiful thing. I don't ever want to be ashamed of how we chose to raise our 2 beautiful girls. Because if there ever should come a time where our time together is cut short.....I don't want to have any regrets. I don't want to ever regret not giving hugs, kisses and I loves yous....I don't ever want to regret how I raised them. I want to own it. I want to feel 100% confident that I did the best I could....the way Christ was leading me to parent.....
So sweet momma.....those doubts about how you are raising those precious little souls.....pray that God silences them. As long as you are letting God speak into your heart about the way you should go...that's all that matters. You know what your family needs more than anyone else. Those little hearts look to you for guidance and you are doing the absolute best you can. It might not look like how I do things or the mom down the street....but girl....you are rocking it. Own it momma....own it....
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